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Whistle Stopper - The Gift of Fear
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List Price: $7.99
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Manufacturer: Dell
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Binding: Mass Market Paperback
Dewey Decimal Number: 362.88
EAN: 9780440226192
ISBN: 0440226198
Label: Dell
Manufacturer: Dell
Number Of Items: 1
Number Of Pages: 432
Publication Date: 1998-05
Publisher: Dell
Release Date: 1998-05-11
Studio: Dell
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Summary: Good Read
Comment: The book contains some very useful information, including the lists of markers to predict violent behavior and the discussion of fear vs. worry. What's not useful is the psychobabble, of which there is a good amount. The author is an acolyte of Oprah Winfrey, so it's not surprising that the usual prejudices are in play -- anti-gun-ownership, ripping of American culture, and moral relativism. These distractions are easily skipped over, however. All in all, a good read, but be prepared to do some flipping.
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Summary: Anger is a Gift, Too
Comment: I liked this book a lot, not just because of the author's insights, but because it confronts and distinguishes between fear, anxiety, worry, perception, and gut instinct. All are important, but anxiety and worry are destructive. This book tells how to unshackle yourself from these destructive behaviors, and how to harness the constructive gifts of fear, perception, and instinct.
As a woman who has taken a whole lot of self defense classes (both psychololgically and physically based), I can tell you one thing they all share with this book: Don't act like a victim. If you act cowed- walking with head down, hood up, and keys out- you look like a good target. Predators attack those that appear weak. This book explains how regain confidence by listening to yourself, which in turn becomes a doubly protective mechanism.
In closing, I read through the one star reviews, and they all seem to have an axe to grind because DeBecker doesn't advocate owning a gun as a means of protection. While I don't think this makes the author anti-gun, I do think it's important for people like me, who are NOT comfortable owning a gun, to have resources other than, "buy a handgun and learn to shoot it". That, after all, would make an awfully short and (for me at least) unuseful book.
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Summary: this is good!!
Comment: this is a really good book!!! i'm not originally from this country, but this stuff is real and can be used in any society.
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Summary: Great Book
Comment: I'm fifteen years old. I'm probably one of the youngest readers of The Gift of Fear, but Gavin de Becker's words empowered me just as much as they did the next person. I loved the book. It made me realize that I have to stop ignoring my body, my intuition. If you haven't read this book, go out and get it! It will teach you so many things. This book should be required reading in high school, especially in girl's "health" classes. It is a practical, although at times scary, outline of the threats that can be around us. The layout is particularly good in that each chapter is a different specific threat. DeBecker has set up the book as if it was a manual; he describes step by step how to keep you safe. The way he organizes the information makes it much more understandable. It's obvious he took his time getting all of his thoughts and beliefs down on paper. As you red you sense a certain amount of fear in the way he writes, you can tell he is sincerely dedicated to warning and helping woman of the violence we have in our society today. He's been through and witnessed violence (as he describes in his book) hearing what he thought and felt makes it easier to relate to your own life. Too bad we live in a world like this, but this book can give one an edge. The real life anecdotes blew me away. The account of the murdered woman who had reportedly suffered violence at the hands of the defendant for a long while. The calls to police, filing battery charges, lady killed by stabbing, defendant had a dream about killing her, his lawyers claiming it was drug dealers that committed murder. Sound familiar? DeBecker reveals that this true story happened six months before the famous "white Bronco" television event in a neighborhood thousands of miles from Brentwood. This book is too good NOT to read. Ever since a couple of years ago, I knew I wanted to help people. I'm the person my friends come to when they have a conflict, I like giving advice and solving people's dilemmas. There was one problem: I didn't heed my own advice. I didn't listen to myself many times because I could picture people saying, "Oh, that's a silly suspicion." Fortunately, I have never been in a situation in which I deeply regret ignoring my intuition, but after reading The Gift of Fear I have learned how to listen to myself. I also baby-sit. The other day I was holding one of the children, and he pointed to one of his brother's friends and whispered to me, "I'm scared of him." I thought for a moment and replied, "Well, you know what? That's OK." I told him that if he's ever afraid, he should leave where that person is and go find Mommy, or me, or someone he knows and doesn't feel afraid. I was proud that he listened to his intuition, but I think I was more proud of my response. I was totally psyched that I had reinforced something he needs to survive. My point is that The Gift of Fear taught me how to use my gift of intuition and my gift of fear. Read the book because you will learn from it; you will use the tactics everyday. Gavin de Becker does an excellent job of sharing his experience in dealing with topics of understanding threats, predicting violence, workplace violence, stalking, domestic violence, and more. This book will shed new light in an area of our society where unwanted pursuits and violent behavior seem to be a part of our every day existence. Best of all, you will become more comfortable with every day life and you will use the wonderful treasures Mother Nature has given you because it was instilled in you by Gavin de Becker.
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Summary: Never Ignore....
Comment: That "little voice"...It is there for a reason...Instinct is there to keep us safe...Do not allow it to become skewed or let someone talk us out of it....
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Each hour, 75 women are raped in the United States, and every few seconds, a woman is beaten. Each day, 400 Americans suffer shooting injuries, and another 1,100 face criminals armed with guns. Author Gavin de Becker says victims of violent behavior usually feel a sense of fear before any threat or violence takes place. They may distrust the fear, or it may impel them to some action that saves their lives. A leading expert on predicting violent behavior, de Becker believes we can all learn to recognize these signals of the "universal code of violence," and use them as tools to help us survive. The book teaches how to identify the warning signals of a potential attacker and recommends strategies for dealing with the problem before it becomes life threatening. The case studies are gripping and suspenseful, and include tactics for dealing with similar situations. People don't just "snap" and become violent, says de Becker, whose clients include federal government agencies, celebrities, police departments, and shelters for battered women. "There is a process as observable, and often as predictable, as water coming to a boil." Learning to predict violence is the cornerstone to preventing it. De Becker is a master of the psychology of violence, and his advice may save your life. --Joan Price
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